You and Your Emotions


 Rejection can take women into three different directions: the first ends in shame/reproach, the second ends in anger, bitterness and murder and the third ends in sadness and depression. It is the fundamental reason why women go through the emotions listed above.Rejection is a lack of acceptance by oneself or others and usually starts at an early age. Someone has to first reject themselves to be abused and then make the conscious decision to continue in that abuse. Rejection makes people susceptible to bullies and abuse.

                Many people aren't aware that it is the feeling of rejection that causes them to react to others in a negative manner. It usually starts from a loved one or family members, spouse or significant other, self-rejection and societal rejection. Women then allow themselves to be abused because subconsciously they believe that they deserve to be abused and bullied. This now leads to compromising behaviour such as premarital sex, giving themselves cheaply to men: allowing men to have sex with them without a relationship (friends with benefits), low sense of self-worth, multiple partners, lesbianism, masturbation, calling men who are not interested in them and searching for men in malls or different places who are not seek them, etc…

                Compromising behaviours can lead to unplanned pregnancies, diseases (STDs or STIs), as well as emotional and spiritual soul ties. This can lead to abortions or some even keep the child but are constantly faced with the reminder of their past decisions and the consequences of those actions. Guilt then sets in because they know that they were acting on emotions and didn't take the time required to work through their thoughts and feelings. This turns into a state of unworthiness, these women find it difficult to accept compliments and they don't think they deserve them based on their past experiences. Even when these women start going to church they find it difficult to receive what God's word says about them because it contradicts with how they perceive themselves now that shame has covered them.

                Rejection can also cause envy and comparison which leads to critical behaviour that turns into anger and strife. When these feelings of hurt, pain and disrespect are not dealt with they can manifest in anger which can turn into murder without proper counsel. The world treats women as commodities that can be bought and sold. However, the truth is that every woman is the child of the king with a destiny that needs to be fulfilled and it doesn't matter who they are or what they have done in the past. Women need to see themselves the way God sees them.  Some women even after they are married still deal with rejection. Even though others have told them they're beautiful they still hold onto the rejection of the past thinking that there is something wrong with them.

                Some people take the path of over dependency causing them to be overly clingy. Such women don't have strong coping mechanisms so when that person leaves or dies they are over dependent causing them to be prone to grieving and loss. They lack the ability to move on with their lives after experiencing loss.  There are evil men out there who will prey on those areas of vulnerability, emotionally or physically abusing women because they know that the more they mistreat them the more they will try to accommodate them. This leads to them becoming even more clingy, allowing those men to have a greater hold on the women and increasing their level of control. These men know that the women need them. Women should work with their hands and earn their own money, not being dependent on a man to supply for their basic needs. If a woman is going to be waiting on an ungodly man to take care of them they are making themselves susceptible to abuse. A man should still provide for his household but a woman needs to have her own independence, waiting on God not a man to supply for her needs.

                Everyone has been fearfully and wonderfully made by God. What a person believes about themselves they live and they will begin to act out. Women cannot allow circumstance to change the way they see themselves or cause them to reject themselves. Self condemnation is the worst feeling of all because there is nothing that anyone can say that will make a difference, as they have already given up on themselves. Self rejection leads to suicidal thoughts, self limiting thoughts, and depression.

                How does someone break out of rejection? Jesus Christ is the answer!

"And I will restore to you the years that the locust has eaten, the cankerworm, the caterpillar, and the palmerworm, my great arm which I sent among you." Joel 2:25.

Jesus is willing and able to deliver everyone from personal failures. One thing always leads to another, time spent in meditation on failures and hurts lead to more condemning thoughts and emotions. It's important for women not to visualize themselves from the perspective of their failures instead, see it as another lesson learned in the school of the Holy Ghost 101.                               

"There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the spirit. For the law of the Spirit, of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death." Romans 8:1-2.

                Knowing that, God has made everyone who believes in Christ Jesus and has made Him to be their Lord has been accepted in the beloved. Because Jesus has accepted them no man can rejected them.

"To the praise of the glory of his grace, wherein he hath made us accepted in the beloved." Ephesians 1:6.

"But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should show forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light." 1 Peter 2:9.

"And that he might make known the riches of his glory on the vessels of mercy, which he had afore prepared unto glory." Romans 9:23.

Christ Jesus has taken his children out of darkness and has translated them into God's glorious light. The ability to see themselves the same way Jesus sees them is the empowerment to break out of the hold of rejection and its affects. It takes knowledge and declaring what God says in every situation, especially concerning self, life and Godliness. By speaking back with what is written regarding every situation based on what God's word says the devil will hear it and obey.

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