BUILDING YOUR HOME AND CAREER

God has Loaded You With Talents

In your lifetime, you will only scratch the surface of the depths of what God has put inside of you. You are never too old, never too brilliant, never too intelligent and never too well-read for God to use you. Until we shed mortality for immortality, you have an assignment; something that God wants you to do for Him.

Building a Career

There is a notion in the world that having a career, money and a ministry are not things that a woman should aspire to have. But it is a deception to think that because you are a woman, you should not want these things. You can have a career, money and be in the ministry as a woman.

Your career, your money and the ministry doesn’t define you. It doesn’t make you the “man” of the home. What defines you is how God sees you and what He calls you. Your role as a husband or wife is defined by God; it is defined in the scriptures. Therefore there is no reason for career, money or ministry to get in the way of any healthy relationship.

If you abdicate your career for a man, you may fall into the hands of an abusive man. The mindset that makes you think that career, money and ministry is for men only, is the same mindset that will draw you to a man who will abuse you. Yet, the fact that you are the one bringing money into the home does not make you the man in the relationship.

 

Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

~Proverbs 31:3~

God who made you a woman is the same God who put the skills and talents inside of you. Therefore let your own works praise you. Let the things you are good at celebrate you. Don’t abandon or hide your gifts and don’t be intimidated.

How to Engage Your Career and Ministry

1. Identify and discover your skills and talents

2. Develop them by going to school or specialized training (whatever career you are pursuing, be trained at it)

3. Utilize the skills you have by getting a job

Building a Home

A virtuous woman builds a home. A house is a place where you eat, sleep and watch TV. But a home is an atmosphere where you thrive. It is a resting place where a man can dwell, function and stay; where children can grow and where everyone is happy. A home speaks of quality life. One of the most superb skills of a wife is that she is a homemaker.

A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.

~Proverbs 31:10-12~

A woman who is not focused on building character is getting ready to destroy her home.

For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness

~2 Peter 1:5-6~

What keeps a home is character. It is a myth that women are emotional wrecks that lack self-control. How you talk, react and respond matters. If you react and lash out quickly, you are not building a home. A virtuous woman wants to hold back. The ability to hold back and refrain takes maturity. It takes wisdom to be able to keep a relationship.

The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.

~Proverbs 14:1~

The chief men refrained from speaking and covered their mouths with their hands; the voices of the nobles were hushed, and their tongues stuck to the roof of their mouths.

~Job 29:9-10~

Keep yourself under check. Refrain yourself, keep back and wait for the right time. Not everything that is bothering you do you need to talk about. Sometimes you need to let things go for the sake of peace. Refrain from talking. Do not react. As a child of God, refuse to allow negative emotions to rule your life and direct your tongue. Delay immediate gratification for permanent gain.

Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.

~1 Peter 3:1-4~

Submission is the power of the woman in a relationship. Being a submissive wife does not mean that you are a doormat. If your husband loves you it helps, but it does not make you submissive. To say that a woman is submissive because a man loves her is to undermine the work of God in

that woman's life. It is a heart thing. A virtuous woman is a woman who is able to manage her husband, her children and her home successfully; in an atmosphere of peace, love and serenity. A virtuous woman is a good manager. She can manage the temperament of her husband and the temperament of her children.

Forgiveness

Build your home on self-control. You will need plenty of forgiveness. If you don’t know how to forgive, you are not ready for any relationship at all. In the long-run, peace matters. If you want prosperity in your home, it must be peaceful. When angels come and they find peace in a home, they bring prosperity there. Any home where there is peace, you will see God's hand there—meeting needs, canceling debts, paying bills and helping out. That is the story of every peaceful home.

How to Overcome a Lack of Self-Control

1. Know that gentleness and self-control is the nature of God

And he passed in front of Moses, proclaiming, "The LORD, the LORD, the compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness.

~Exodus 34:6~

2. Know that you have the spirit of gentleness and self-control in you by the Holy Ghost

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness

~Galatians 5:22~

3. Ask and receive the spirit of self-control and it will be yours